The Rhythms of the Week in Adoptionland

Update:  nothing...nada...zilch.  Still no word on NOC.  There is a rhythm to the week in this adoption process...it's predictable and I recognize it now that I have joined a Facebook group for people adopting from India.  I thought it was just me...but others on this journey are clearly following the same pattern.  So Monday mornings are the most hopeful, exciting part of the week.  You've convinced yourself all weekend that this will be the week you get good news.   India is approximately 12 hours ahead of us, so the business day has completed, and if you are going to get any news for that day, it will likely get to you in the morning. Every morning starts with reaching for your phone to check for news.  You get used to getting blinded by the cell phone rather than waiting until your eyes have adjusted. Tuesday is also a hopeful day...more news in general from agencies seems to come on that day.  Wednesday and Thursday are hold your breath days...you can still convince yourself that good news is coming and often you get some message from your agency that they are working on it. Based on the India Facebook group postings, a lot of news comes on Friday.  This week there was a lot of good news posted on the group on Friday.  One woman sailed through three steps of the process in a record 2 weeks time, but usually it's little nuggets of good news.  Other weeks, it can be a lot of bad news...reports of delays or problems that have come up.  When other people report news on Friday and you haven't gotten any, you realize that you probably aren't going to get anything, though you increase the number of times you check your email just in case.  By Friday afternoon, the week is over.  The weekend is the long wait when you are certain you won't get any news...you often have this one thought that under normal circumstances would never occur--weekend, hurry up and be over. It's been a true blessing to have been introduced to this Facebook adoption group.  People in the group are so helpful and supportive and it really helps you maintain your sanity as well as learn about the process through other people's experience.  It's neat to watch everyone's journey and it really fills you up with hope and joy when you see pics or video sent in from India from members who go to get their children after such a hard fought process.

This week marks the one year anniversary of receiving our referral for Anjali.  April 15, 2014 was the day we received our first picture of her and I fell in love.  I just remember thinking, she is so beautiful...her eyes pulled me into a trance and  I knew she was the one.    She has grown so much since that photo and I'm sure she's grown quite a bit since our visit in December.  We still haven't decorated her room because we would have to walk through it every day to get to ours and that would be too much we think.  But I've been buying things for her room as I find them.    I bought a growth chart for her to put on the wall a couple of weeks ago.  I hope and pray it's not too long before I can watch her grow before my own two eyes every single day.  I want so much for Anjali to get here soon, so we can begin to settle into our own rhythm dictated by her needs and  whatever rhythm is required to help us develop our relationship as mother and daughter.